Gibberish Utterance

sometimes i wish i can do more stuffs with alyssa during the weekend. but saturdays are usually gone cos we send her to school in the late morning, after she’s back from school in the afternoon she will usually nap till about dinner time. anyway, that will be till May then i will stop her weekend class and put her on weekday classes so that i will have more time with her at home during the weekends.

but even saying so, during weekends sometimes i’m so busy doing this and that till i also don’t have much time to spend with her. and sadly, playhouse disney became her friend.

people always said that it’s not good for kids to watch so much tv, but sometimes got no choice but to let the tv babysit for awhile. still it’s better to be selective of what they are watching. i think playhouse disney is still ok and most of the cartoons teach positive things. unlike those serials, like last sunday my mum was watching the taiwan serial and that woman inside kept calling “bao bao” (baby) and alyssa also started kept saying bao bao. they pick up very fast! but luckily she’s not those who can be glued to the tv for hours. usually after half hr or an hr, she will start looking for me in the kitchen and cling to my leg again. her favorite place in kitchen? squeeze in between the kitchen cabinet and my legs.

usually when she starts to get restless, i will get her to do her “drawings”.

two weekends back, i told her to draw for her daddy and popo cos it was her daddy birthday and to popo cos she made her fall down. so she drew these 2, and while drawing she kept saying orange. i don’t know if she meant orange colour or she was drawing orange. but later in the evening i showed her the drawing and asked her what is this, she said orange. hahaha…

for daddy

for popo

actually it was only half of a saturday without her. last weekend after her class, asked my sis and mum to help bring her home and look after her so that can go to loy’s talk at esplanade.

as i didn’t went for his previously talk, so jen suggested that this time we give him a surprise by buying the tickets secretly and going down to surprise him. but all the tickets were sold out before we can buy. since there will be no surprise, so i told him about it and he got us to be his “assistants” so we can go without getting any tickets.

hahaha… anyway both his assistants never help to do work lah.. we went there when it was about to start. oh ya, we got help to keep his photos at the end of the talk. hehehe..

after that we went for a super late lunch/early dinner at marina square and walked around abit. it felt weird to be out during the weekend without alyssa around but it was a nice break.

that’s how alyssa says baby. she calls herself baby. she calls baby to any kids even those older than her. she likes watching TV commercials with baby in it.

since she likes baby, so i bought her a baby doll few weeks back. we went to toysRus and she picked her own baby. now she will always look for her baby to play and to give hugs. she will look for her baby when she wants to sleep. i think having this doll is also a good thing, we can teach her to be gentle to baby, hug and kiss baby and not to throw baby on the floor.

just woke up and carry baby out from the room

watching tv with baby

but i think kids are still kids, sometimes she will still purposely throw baby when we told her cannot throw.

that’s when she is an angel and not a little terror.

wearing ah yi’s ear muffs

do i look like a little mongolian girl?

that day when we went ikea, she was so happy when she saw this bulldog toy. when i took one for her, she happily hug it and walk around. the bulldog doesn’t really look that attractive but it got her attention more than any other stuff toys there. so eventually her daddy got it for her.

we celebrated loy’s birthday yesterday. the little girl was the most excited one, she couldn’t wait to eat the cake.

the cheeky girl

and her cheeky parents. hahaha!!

quick sing finish the birthday song, i want to eat the cake!

why mummy still want to take photo?

quick cut the cake!

mmmm.. yummy..

people always say that there will be a “terrible 2″ phase when the kid turns 2 years. i think for alyssa it starts at 1 and half yrs old instead of 2. she’s getting really difficult to handle especially meal/milk and sleeping time. she’s still alright at all other times, she’s happy, she laughs and plays. but when she starts throwing her tantrums, she’s a headache for all of us.

when she doesn’t want to have her milk, she will keep crying and screaming. it’s the same when she doesn’t want to sleep. lately she’s not interested in taking her afternoon naps and doesn’t want to sleep early at night. if we put her to bed, she will cry and scream in the following ways..

1. lie on the bed, crying away, kicking her legs in the air and arching her back like worm moving like of movement.

2. lie on the floor, on her back face up and cry, swinging her hands and legs in the air.

3. lie on the floor, face down and cry, bang her hands on the floor and kick her legs on the floor like swimming movement.

if we attempt to carry her up, she will put up a struggle and arch her back backwards. so if you didn’t stand properly, you will lose your balance and fall forward like how my mum did.

so now i will just leave her to cry and scream until she’s tired or want to throw up. after awhile, i will pick her up and put her on the bed. she will sleep when she’s tired from all the crying.

it got so bad yesterday afternoon. loy was working, i was bz with her stuffs and housework the whole morning till afternoon that i don’t even have time to sit down for a rest and to have my lunch. so i wanted put her for her afternoon nap then i can cook my lunch, but she just refused to sleep and kept wanted me to carry her. she kept crying, screaming and clinging on me else doing one of the above acts. i got so frustrated as i was so tired and hungry that i broke down and cry with her. seeing me like that, she just kept quiet and lie on the bed. after awhile she just fall asleep by herself.

i don’t understand when she became like that. she will everytime say “no” or “mai” (we didn’t teach her what is “mai” but don’t know where she pick that up from). so it became like it’s my fault that i spoilt her (which i never did). i disciplined her and she understands, but she’s just rebellious. my mum said that everytime i bring alyssa back to my parent’s place after the weekend, she will always be so difficult to handle and i had spoilt her during the weekend. but during the weekend, she behaves just the same, just as difficult so is it that my mum spoilt her during the weekdays.. sigh.. with a kid that’s so difficult to handle, how to even think of having another one..

i took leave last friday to bring alyssa to fly kite. since ikea sales also started on friday, we decided to go there for breakfast and shop for a wardrobe for alyssa. eventhough it was 10am+, the AYE expressway was still quite heavy traffic, the stopping and moving kind. so at a point where we had to stop, a car knocked to the back of us. that guy who drove a BMW, had nothing on his car but we had a quite a big dent at the back. luckily alyssa wasn’t frightened, she was just frustrated to wait in the car while loy settled with that guy. funny thing is that it was quite a hard knock and she wasn’t scared but when loy braked harder she will pat her chest and say scared.

anyway the weird thing when this accident happened, there was another car that stopped at the road shoulder and a guy ran 3 lanes across to come to us. i thought who is this kaypoh guy, end up he is some “accident claim advisor” as seen on his namecard. got so qiao one meh?? after taking some photos and exchange contacts, we went off. totally no mood already but since we were near ikea already, we just continue to go there for breakfast and went back to my parent’s place.

so after putting alyssa to have her afternoon nap there, my sis, loy and me send the car to the workshop. we still have to spend a few hours there cos that guy wanted to go to the workshop too and we have to wait for him. by the time we were done, it rained so heavily that we can’t bring alyssa to fly kite already and that little girl kicked up a big fuss when she couldn’t find us after waking up from her nap and caused my mum to fall together with her cos she kept struggling. my mum had bumped her knee and head from this fall. i will blog more about how terrible she is now.

don’t understand why i can’t bring alyssa for an outdoor outing. the last time when we planned to bring her to East coast beach, it rained very heavily too. always waste my leave on such days… any suggestion where can fly kite during the weekend without the crowds?

Holding hands isn’t just for teens
Bring that zing back into your relationship by rediscovering the lost art of Public Display of Affection.
by Sonali

Remember the time when holding hands in the MRT or stealing a kiss behind a tree sent a tingle down your spine? Just because you are married does not mean that you cannot display affection in front of others anymore. It is a natural way of telling others that you are a proud couple and sharing your happiness and contentment with the rest of the world.

It doesn’t have to be something that makes others uncomfortable or gets you in trouble with the law. You can display your affection publicly with simple, affectionate gestures like linking arms or squeezing your partner’s shoulder. Public display of affection doesn’t always have to be cheesy or worthy of an eyeroll – it can be subtle and yet show confidence!

Humming a particular song that is special to both of you is both acceptable and guaranteed to create that special feeling between you. Unbeknownst to anyone else, you can made a very personal statement to your loved one. Why is this important? Because it reminds both partners that they have something very special, something they share with just each other and which no one else has privy to. Being able to create that bubble for yourselves even in the middle of a crowd is an art to master.

Public display of affection has positive effects. Don’t you think its endearing when you see an elderly couple walking hand-in-hand in the park? It’s like they have the secret to marital longevity and happiness. And don’t you smile secretly to yourself when you see a teenage couple blushing furiously after a peck on the cheek? But remember to practice discretion, being mindful of the company and situation you are in and do it in a tasteful and dignified manner without ruffling anybody’s feathers or hurting public sentiments.

Displaying your affections publicly could be the spark that can bring the two of you closer together and make you feel young all over again.

saw this from asianparent. after reading, it got me thinking… when was the last time we kissed hello and bye, and how rare we hold hands nowadays such that it became a strange and distance feeling when we hold hands once in a while. eversince alyssa came, all these just kind of faded off. remember one of the night last week, how nice it was to be watching the TV together, without him kept facing his PC. all the common things in the past had become a rarity now. something must be done to re-ignite that sparks again.